My father-in-law passed away this morning.
It’s a strange place I’m in right now. I am so sad, it is crushing. Yet I know that we all die. And I feel like he knew that Mom-in-law, with her Parkinson’s, wouldn’t be able to care for him at home, even though that was what a part of him longed for. He was in a lot of pain. He knew that his quality of life was never going to be the same. He’d seen us all…my oldest son had stopped by, we’d been there, Mom-in-law was there, my husband’s brother and his wife were there.
I am trying to be metaphysical about it, soul ascending to a higher plane, this lifetime is but a blink in eternity, all that sort of crap - lol
But the moment is still so raw, it’s hard.
I can’t begin to thank you all for your friendship.
Love,
Marti
PS - he’ll be in some good company at the newcomers lounge, with Art Buchwald and Molly Ivins, huh?
PPS ~ I searched for words of wisdom form someone more clever than I, and ran across this.
I found it quite comforting. The author, Robert Anton Wilson, prolific futurist author and countercultural icon passed away January 11. He had been suffering from post-polio syndrome. So there is another lively thinker in the lounge.
Categories: Family
Posted by Marti @ 
I’m so sorry about your loss Marti. Wish there was something I could say that would take your pain away.
God bless you and your family!
Big Hugs
Pam
February 1st, 2007 at 2:22 pm
Oh, Marti, I’m so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts, please send them all my love. At times like this words just seem to fail and finding the right words just seems even more difficult.
I’m thinking of you. Take care.
*Tons O’ Hugs*
February 1st, 2007 at 6:08 pm
Thinking of you and your family, Lady. Thanks for posting that link.
February 2nd, 2007 at 5:40 am
Marti, I’m so sorry to hear this. I don’t have any special words of wisdom that wouldn’t sound like some lame sympathy card. But please know that we will be thinking of you and your husband.
Chris & Alexis
February 2nd, 2007 at 9:14 pm
Marti, I’m so sorry about your father-in-law. No great words of wisdom here; I just wanted you to know I was thinking of you.
February 3rd, 2007 at 12:45 am
life is too short. Never a good time to say goodbye…. but you were given the opportunity and it sounds like you all got to tell him you cared.
February 3rd, 2007 at 2:26 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. it’s always hard. and teaches us how precious life is.
February 3rd, 2007 at 7:14 am
I am so sorry, Marti. It doesn’t matter how old, or what the circumstances are, its still hard to say goodbye. Give your husband and his family my best.
February 3rd, 2007 at 1:21 pm
I’m so sorry to hear of your family’s loss.
My FIL died in October, and it was hard to deal with. He was so loved, but he was also in a lot of pain and suffering deterioration from cancer. I can relate to your emotions at this time.
I hope you got throught the funeral okay and that your MIL will be able to handle the loss as well.
Time will help heal, but there will always be a whole that only Pop can fill. I wish you all comfort as you carry this burden of loss.
February 4th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
Big hugs for you, Marti.
February 4th, 2007 at 11:57 pm
Awe hun I’m so sorry to hear that, I’ll be sending good thoughts your way *hugs*
February 5th, 2007 at 11:45 am
My deepest condolences to you and your family. *hugs*
February 6th, 2007 at 2:21 pm
My deepest sympathies Marti… And it was a very beautiful article by Robert Anton Wilson. Hugs to you.
February 6th, 2007 at 3:18 pm
Oh Marti, I’m so sorry.
February 6th, 2007 at 4:46 pm
My prayers to your father-in-law, you, and your family, Marti.
February 6th, 2007 at 8:29 pm
Heartfelt sympathy for you and your family during your time of loss. Hugs, Marti.
February 8th, 2007 at 3:32 pm
Sorry to hear about your loss.
My deepest sympathies for you and your family.
February 9th, 2007 at 12:07 am
Hi there, I’ve been relying on using Bloglines to do my daily rounds of the blogroll for a while now, it’s a very time saving method but it feels a bit impersonal at times, so it’s a hot Saturday, I’m gonna sit here and visit with everyone, It won’t feel any different to you but know that I chose to visit today instead of just answering an electronic reminder.
Have a good day.
I posted earlier but it didn’t take obviously, so sorry to hear the news condolences to all.
February 9th, 2007 at 10:45 pm
It’s always easy to say “we all die” and such when we’re not going through it. Grief is natural, and I’m thinking about you now.
Hugs,
Mystery
(aka inspiredgirl)
www.shotinthedarkmysteries.com
February 10th, 2007 at 4:21 am
I am sorry to drop by so late, Marti. And terribly sorry to hear about your loss. Yes, death is natural, but so is our attachment with our loved ones. At least your father-in-law is free of pain now.
My sincerest best wishes to your family.
(((Hugs)))
February 10th, 2007 at 6:16 am
We have sadness here too, so I can share your sorrow for a loss. My wife’s oldest brother passed away last Saturday.
It’s just life’s reminder that we are all fragile and not permanent.
February 10th, 2007 at 9:50 pm
I’m very sorry to hear of your loss. That was a touching post.
February 13th, 2007 at 9:09 pm
Hi Marti,
I hope you’re doing okay Sweetie. I have been worried about you. Please take care and if you need me I am here for you. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
Love ya Girl
Leeuna
February 14th, 2007 at 1:15 am
My dad’s up there too, so the father in law will have a good time.
Hang in there.
February 20th, 2007 at 5:57 pm
Wow Marti, I’m so sorry. It’s never easy, no matter how you try to rationalize it or know that the person was suffering or think you’re ready for it. It hurts.
My thoughts are with you.
February 21st, 2007 at 8:04 pm