Dear Daughter slugged him. I got the dreaded phone call - please come to the office. Groan.
They sat in there, the miscreant ne’er do well, and Dear Defiant Daughter.
Nothing but a metal office chair and a fog of fury separated them. I sighed. I was expecting this (unfortunately). He’s been tormenting her for years. She got her period. She snapped. No court in the land would convict her LOL
We adjourned to the counselor’s office. Explanations were in order. The lad shrugged and claimed innocence and wonderment at being attacked. Daughter rolled her eyes so severely, I feared they would pop out and spin across the floor.
Fool. His puny intellect was unprepared for the onslaught. Daughter launched a tirade worthy of the finest orators in the land. Listing, step by step, year by year, report by report, the pain and suffering inflicted upon her tender soul by Moron Boy, and her requests to the administrators for castigation (not castration, we’re not barbarians LOL)
I was so proud.
Of course I had to wear my Stern Mommy face, because we do not resolve our differences with physical violence. It required the strength of Hercules to remain straight-faced when they asked why she hit him. “Because nothing else got anyone’s attention.”
So they’re both in trouble. Didn’t really seem fair to me, but I’m biased. If some jackass tormented me for years, sticking gum in my hair, calling me names, tripping me in the hallway and incessantly tapping my shoulder from the riser above me in choir, only to be released from any punishment when the incidents were reported, I’d have snapped too.
But don’t tell Dear Daughter. I gotta be Mean Mommy even when I hate it.
Posted by Marti @ 
I would feel the same way. Good on Dear Daughter! In her shoes, I’d figure a little trouble was worth teaching him a lesson, especially since the adults wouldn’t do it.
September 7th, 2006 at 7:41 am
Good for her!
We taught our girls to stand up for themselves. Use your brain first, your fists second, but get even with tormentors. My daughter’s long-time nemesis smacked her on the head with a textbook while the teacher was out of the room. My daughter snapped and chased him with a chair. Luckily, she was stopped before she could brain him with it, but the boy decided it was too risky to keep bothering her & stopped.
The real kicker is… the boy’s mother was the teacher! She wasn’t happy about the chair incident, but she knew well what a pest her son could be & the incident blew over with a good talking to for both kids.
It’s been 4 years and my daughter’s classmates still bring up the chair incident and how much this boy deserved getting “the chair”
September 7th, 2006 at 8:36 am
I had my fair share of harrassment from pesky boys. So, I’m glad she bopped him one.
September 7th, 2006 at 10:58 am
my sister had a similar incident in junior high. After all was said an done and school punishments were doled out, my mom did confide in my sister that she understood why she had lashed out as she did (similar- nothing else had worked) but explained that we dont hit when we are angry. So altho she understood she still grounded her. BUt my sister was happy knowing she wasnt wrong to have felt that way, she just needed to learn to deal with it another way. But sometimes, some people just need to be decked.
September 7th, 2006 at 1:03 pm
I like the previous comment. Yes, if it were my kid I would feel the need to make sure she understood that I didn’t condone hitting, but I think I would also let her know that I understood how she felt. I don’t really blame her either
. Hopefully this will deter him from bothering her again, knowing she won’t be a passive victim.
September 7th, 2006 at 6:20 pm
Well… as a parent, I know we can’t condone violence. As a woman… I’m completely irate that he was allowed to be physically agressive to her all this time and the one time she finally snapped, she gets in trouble.
I say get her self-defense lessons and let her kick the tar out of him. The bad thing about her being in trouble as well is that it gives him the impression he can do whatever he likes and when someone does something to him in retaliation - he’s the victim, not someone who asked for it and got what he deserved. The school should know better, especially with the numerous complaints.
Funny, perhaps if she had claimed “sexual harassment” they’d have nailed him a long time ago? Maybe?
September 7th, 2006 at 8:00 pm
Marti,
Having never, ever, in all my years as a natural born boy-type young’un done anything like bugging a girl-type female of the opposite sex, (honest) I say that little whelp should be given something resembling a fair trial and then sentenced to serve as a tackling dummy for the football team.
Bill
September 7th, 2006 at 8:18 pm